Have you ever experienced that?
The healing process is not often glamorous, shiny or particularly fun.
What I have encountered most often is healing that zig zags, speeds up, slows down, is sometimes crystal clear and sometimes so murky you feel you can’t see 6 inches in front of you.
In terms of our chronic complaints, the way we get sick isn’t usually straightforward. In many cases the way we get sick is sneaky, happening little by little until it’s all we can notice.
As above, so below. We don’t get a chronic disease overnight, and we can’t heal overnight. Just as getting sick takes many years the healing journey often does as well.
The important thing is the healing action; progress and movement in the right direction. We don’t expect to see quantum leaps here, we just want to see that we are moving in the right direction.
There are many important reasons to have allies on your healing path– One reason is that you cannot hold space for yourself, which you need in order to heal. Another is that you cannot hold the larger perspective of where you are coming from and where you are going as you heal. You need people in your life and on your team that will help you see how far you’ve come and reassure you that you are moving in the right direction when you feel lost.
Healing comes out of growth, growth comes out of destruction.
In our brain, neural connections that are not used are marked for destruction so new ones can be built. We see this dynamic everywhere throughout life, we must break down the old in order to build up the new.
During the healing process we are experiencing the destruction of the structures and processes that have been helping us cope, be it physically, mentally or spiritually. No wonder it can be a dark and despairing time. These are structures we’re used to hanging onto for safety, it makes sense that we can feel lost and uncertain.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling lost during periods of the healing process, but it’s helpful to have trusted people around us to remind us of this.
Here’s what I know for sure: if you are truly committed to your healing path, periods that may feel like floundering are not floundering. They are a part of the journey and they are right where they need to be. You are right where you need to be at all times.